Have you ever thought about what life would be like at a particular age, only to get there and think to yourself, oh, crap! Already? You then start scrambling through your rolodex of past dreams and goals and quickly come to the realization that you may not be where you expected?
I certainly have, and this morning was no different. Two years away from 30, I woke up reflecting on what got me to where I am today. And in all honesty, I attribute a lot of where I am today to the excitement I once had about “what life would be like” when I got here.
I talked a little bit about excitement in my last post , but I want to dive a little deeper. I personally believe that we emit a certain energy when we get excited about a particular goal. We set our minds and hearts on something that we hope to achieve, focus deeply and begin to imagine what it would be like to realize it. That energy is put into the universe with a level of intensity that is so strong, our dreams have no other choice but to come true!
The first time someone tried to sell me on this idea, I quickly dismissed it. I was in my early 20s and going through a little bit of a rough patch. You know, the kind where you’re tripping over a guy, hiding from Sallie Mae, and ducking family and friends out of fear that they may ask the dreadful “what are you doing with your life” question – all at the same time? Yea … that was me. I was living in the “City of Dreams” but the distance from point A to Z seemed even further. My mind couldn’t conceive what life would be like at the end of the tunnel because I was buried under three feet of smog.
I had to change my thinking.
I learned that in order for me to reach my goals, I had to get excited about all the milestones along the way – however small they may have been. And here are three ways you can refresh the way you think about your goals.
#1: Protect Your Positivity – You can’t begin to conceive new dreams without a positive outlook on the possibilities. We can all stretch our minds and expand what we set our sights on by first surrounding ourselves with positive people. Those who are also aiming for greatness can help you get excited about your goals. Let’s say you have that one friend who keeps trying to “ground” you. The one who always has something to say or always feels the need to offer up some “constructive criticism.” Do me a favor – if he/she hasn’t constructed anything, stop listening to it! I have no place for cynicism at 28, and you shouldn’t either! Carry on with your positive affirmations, goal-setting and excitement building!
#2: Dump The Data – Statistics say that 80% of Black women in America will be single until age 40. Statistics also say that women will earn only 77 cents to every dollar a man makes. Are these numbers disappointing? Yes. Do you have to accept them as your truth? Absolutely not! Remember, your reality can be led by excitement. You have to truly believe that you can achieve it, and you will. Data shouldn’t trump possibility. Don’t let discouraging statistics about the likelihood of your success dictate what dreams you can get excited about. Dump the data and decide to be an outlier!
#3: Relish in Those Roses – This whole idea of excitement helping to propel you toward achieving your goals means that one day, you’ll eventually get there! And when you do, be sure to enjoy the moment. Too often, we focus so much on getting to the top of that staircase that we don’t take the time to look up and realize that we just completed another step along our journey there. Stop. Reflect. Celebrate. Whatever you do, take some time to get excited about your achievement. Relish a bit in those roses of emotion before moving on to the next goal!
27 was a crazy beautiful year for me. I made some critical business decisions, started a new relationship, came to a few personal realizations and got more focused than ever on my goals. This theory of excitement was a major part of that. Now, as I leap into my late 20s (I can’t believe I’m saying that!), I’m looking forward to conquering every personal and professional endeavor with hard work, a plan, but first and even more important – with excitement!
Cheers to a positive and fulfilling year! May your mind always be in overdrive …
I want to hear from you! What goals can you apply this theory of excitement toward?